It always amazes me how much M shuts down around people. When we went into the pool there were a few older boys playing and she wanted nothing to do with the water at all. Once she had the place to herself, she loved it. I brought some swimming toys that sink to the bottom... rings and rods. M loved them but I kept having kids swarming me to play with them.
One little girl wouldn't leave us alone and even would take them out of M's hands. My friend was much nicer than I. It was so annoying to have this little girl crowding M and distracting me and always trying to take the toys. Poor M doesn't mind sharing, but would look longingly at the toys that got away. As soon as the girl would come over M would shut down. I feel bad for being so irritated at all the kids who were much to big to be in there and the little girl.
I think the hardest part is that I'm not very good at standing up for myself but I know I'm the only one there to stand up for M. I've seen it every week in Nursery and anytime we go visit friends. I don't really know how to teach her to stand up for herself. I mean, have to tell her to tell me no when she doesn't want something. How in the world will she ever tell a stranger no... especially when she just shuts down around anyone she doesn't know.
Ah... the joys of parenthood.
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The one thing I've never had a problem with is stating my opinion, but then I always feel pretty bad afterward cause I usually hurt people feelings and sometimes I wish I wasn't capable of just saying what I think and standing up for myself. Being married to Dan has helped though cause he doesn't stick up for himself and it used to drive me nuts but then he never offends anyone so I've been trying really hard to keep my mouth shut most of the time.
That is hard. Sometimes I have a hard time standing up for myself too. And where were the other parents? Thats what drives me crazy! If it was my kid taking the toys I would stop them! I mean really... come on parents! Control your kids! I'm with ya all the way.
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